tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6690022191251175201.post4802555057964729574..comments2023-03-23T11:58:17.950-05:00Comments on Bohemiandoc: Honor your father and motherBohemiandochttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06758811279203924367noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6690022191251175201.post-47519714571524893752009-12-30T14:05:58.684-06:002009-12-30T14:05:58.684-06:00That's a tough one. I'm really lucky b/c ...That's a tough one. I'm really lucky b/c I don't have such acrimonious (or pathological) family. I guess the only thing I could say is treat them like you'd treat any other mentally ill person. Be polite, try not to wake the sleeping bear, pity them in your heart, and give the anger to G-d to handle. <br /><br />Respect doesn't mean you need to forget all the cr@p they do. It means not being intentionally hurtful (for your own good, not because they deserve it obviously, because all that anger only hurts you- high blood pressure, high stress levels of cortisol, etc), and being willing to be the bigger person, walking away when the crazy begins (or continues, because I'm pretty sure it never goes away).Bohemiandochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06758811279203924367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6690022191251175201.post-35590958915286263112009-12-27T14:53:53.848-06:002009-12-27T14:53:53.848-06:00Oh this is so timely. The readings at church last ...Oh this is so timely. The readings at church last night were about honoring one's mother and father. I could do a better job with my mom and I will try - no, will DO - when we are visiting her next week. <br /><br />My real issue is with Chris' parents. How do you do this with people you don't like? I need to make an effort for Chris' sake because he is caught in the middle. One of my new vows is not to complain about them online. But in person? I am polite to them (mostly), but boy in my heart I am angry, bitter and resentful. I don't even know that I want to let go of that anger.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com